The problem of the self

It is very common in some Non Dual writings to move beyond the notion of the self.

The self is seen as an illusion.Indeed if you try and locate the self it is very hard if not impossible to actually find.

The best we have are self concepts and self stories.

I have a name and a body becomes the I that is concious becomes aware of existence through the portal of this body I name Tim.

Though that is not necessarily all of which Iam.

This is a very liberating non conceptual concept.

For to loose this self identity the I can be free, free of uncomfortable emotions and self hatred, free from responsibility and individual choice.

Psychologically, however, the notion of a sense of self (Ego) is seen as a sign of health.

Psychotherapy works to enable its clients to develop a clear and grounded sense of self.

I like this, I don't like that.This is who I am, this is what I feel and think and believe.

To be without a sense of self is thus given labels and negative conceptual understandings.

Such as depersonalisation, psychosis and Borderline Personality Disorder.

The root of these disorders is seen as an identity problem.

A way of being

I have experimented and explored both the psychotherapeutic and the Non Dual concepts of self and selfless self.

What seems necessary for the continuation of healthy forms, healthy people is a unique way of being in the world.

This way of being might be rigid and structured or empty and in a continous process of change.

But there is a way, a unique pattern to this fleeting form of existence we call this body of sensory rhymes.

My work as a Non Dual Psychotherapist is to enable this unique form of being I call my client to find their way of being in this world.

To find their true authentic expression, to allow their nature to flow through the whole of their being.

What we then find is that their nature is not only their nature but also our nature or simply nature.

The universe itself, oneness itself, expressing itself as it is.

So  my nature and your nature are two aspects, two parts of this one nature.

Individual patterns and choices are created by the conditions of form of which they have experienced.

Coming into therapy is yet another condition of form.

With non judgemental acceptance of what is the client can relax into simply being as they are.

Without anything necessarily being done all is done, seemingly effortlessly and all that is no longer needed(suffering) simply falls away.